Executive Search & Recruitment
There are many reasons why you might be thinking about leaving The Game. There are five main ways most people leave - they WALK out, get KICKED out, finally BURN out, eventually GROW out, or they FIND out. No way is the "right" way, what is important is to realize what direction you may be headed in, and how to plan for those changes. Likewise, no way is necessarily easier than any other, and it is important to have an exit plan in place for the transitions ahead of you.
Walking Out - You may simply get to a point one day where it isn't worth it anymore, and you walk away from your folks and the the situation that you've been in. You aren't interested in hearing what he has to say, you might be deeply angry and hurt by the whole experience, but you don't know who you can trust or feel like if you talk about what happened, you'll be judged. In many of these scenarios, women leaving will simply "start over" in the "square life" - they will get a regular job and a boyfriend. But because they haven't worked through or found support for the things they survived in The Game, they often find that they struggle with their job and relationship.
Getting Kicked Out - Your folks may "fire" you, and you decide at that point that you don't want to be in The Game anymore because you don't want another pimp, but you don't want to be thought of as a "faggot" or "renegade." Because you were forced from the situation, you may be filled with guilt - that being "fired" was your fault, that you failed to behave and contribute as you were expected to. Many women who leave The Game after getting kicked out carry shame and embarrassment with them that affects their self-confidence in their abilities outside The Game. You may still feel very committed to the rules of The Game, and try to stay in touch with others still in because you haven't been able to process this loss.
Finally Burning Out - There is a lot of talk in The Game about "burn-outs" - those females who have had countless pimps, lost custody of their children, are not able to keep a consistent roof over their head, or struggle with substance abuse. Because of the social stigmas in general about these life experiences, and the extreme shame The Game places on individuals who have experienced these things, it is easy to feel like a total failure, and to blame yourself entirely for where you are currently. When someone leaves The Game because they have burned out, it is because they have been used and abused psychologically, physically, mentally and emotionally to the point that they can no longer maintain consistency in their daily life. The recovery and rebuilding process can be long and painful, but it is absolutely still possible.
Eventually Growing Out - You may just be getting to a point in your life that The Game no longer meets your needs. You may find the payoffs are no longer worth the risk, or you mature and begin thinking about a life outside The Game. This way of leaving The Game may be the longest process of the five methods, but no less painful or difficult as you transition. Because this is often a more gradual process, you may be able to adjust to the changes more smoothly, and find a sense of peace about your decision to leave.
Finding Out - You may find out that your man has other girls he is running the same game on. You may witness something that makes you see The Game in a whole new light. Or you may have read something on this website that makes you look at things differently. This discovery process can often be very shocking, as the entire belief system you've operated under or the dreams you thought you were working towards are all just lies. This can be a lot to absorb, and it can bring up all kinds of feelings - disbelief, anger, hurt, and shame. You may also find that the more you find out, the more you want to know.
If you are seeing yourself in any of the above, that's a good thing! Recognizing where you are in your journey right now is that first step. Understanding why you may be feeling or thinking some of the things you are can help in realizing that what you are experiencing is a normal response to a possibly non-normal situation. You may need some time to think about all of this before taking the next step - you might not even know what step to take right now, and that's OK! It is all a part of the exit process.
When you are ready to actually leave, there are two main ways you might do that - by escaping, or by transitioning. An escape means you want or need to leave in as little as the next 24 hours up to anytime in the next month. A transition means you have at least a month, or as long as a year or more to leave The Game. You can find more information on how to set up an Escape Plan or Transition Plan by clicking the links below.